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He Ain’t Heavy


I didn’t mention this in my initial wedding post but that’s OK because I think it does deserve it’s own blog post. My brother Cory was my Best Man. Now, him and I look almost nothing alike and we share very little in common. But he’s my brother. And we both share the Ferguson Family Wise Ass Sense of Humor. We also both hate vegetables and we can both wiggle our ears.

I was a little nervous about the toast that he’d have to give. Not because I didn’t think he could do it. It was mainly because Monica’s Maid Of Honor, Kara is very…well…outspoken. That nervousness went away quickly once he started his speech. I’m not going to lie. I got a little teary-eyed over what he said. I can admit it. Cory’s speech brought the house down. At the end of the night when people were telling us how much fun they had, they also told us how awesome my brother’s speech was. So, here it is in its entirety:

First off, for those of you who don’t know me, my name is Cory, and I am James’ younger…but cooler brother. I would also like to thank all of our friends and family who joined us for this special occasion. Thinking back to when James asked me to be his best man, I never knew that getting my butt kicked for all those years would amount to this. I guess he realizes now that I can beat him up.

If I thought about the memories that James and I share, most of them would end with me getting hurt in some way. A broken arm, a bloody get the picture. I will say this though; the figure four leg lock really does hurt no matter what they say about wrestling being fake. I would like to state that the friendship between James and I really started the day he moved out for college…coincidence? I
think not. My mom and dad are also glad that he moved out of his Marilyn Manson phase, Purple hair wouldn’t go well with that suit.

As you may know, James and Monica met at Eckerds. James in a way was Monica’s boss, I don’t know if that means anything. Their love filled the halls of Scudder and they became an item. I didn’t think there was a woman strong enough to deal with James’ stubbornness and sense of humor. As their relationship continued, we all became sick to our stomachs with the amount of time the 2 of them used the word hun, hun do you like this? Whatever you want hun, ok hun, hun I love you! Ughhhh.

Mom and Dad, I would like to say that you did one hell of a job raising a fine young man, and you did a pretty good job on James also. Mr. and Mrs. Stillwell, thank you for giving my brother the opportunity to marry such a nice and beautiful woman.

In closing, not everyone can find true love. The definition of love is said to be a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. Well when I look at these two, I believe that James has found love with Monica. And of course I have to make a comic book reference…She is the Jean Gray to his Cyclops, the Mary Jane to his Spiderman, and the Lois Lane to his Clark Kent. James, I love you. Monica, welcome to our crazy crazy family. Congratulations,……….. here’s to your marriage and the start of a
wonderful life together.

The Old Ball and Chain


So I got married. Yup. That happened. On October 10th 2010 Monica and I tied the knot. We’ve been together for 6.5 years and now we’re officially man and wife. Honestly, all the stress and anxiety and effort I put into keeping Monica calm for the past two years or so while she was planning and working diligently to make the wedding happen paid off. It was a really great time. I don’t know how else to break this down so here’s some thoughts.

-There was no pressure leading up to the ceremony. We saw each other about 3 hours beforehand to take pictures. After that we literally hung out in the parking lot near the ceremony location (which was at the same place that the reception was being held) and greeted our guests casually as they arrived. It was awesome and I highly recommend it to anyone getting married. It took all of the pressure and anxiety away. It was just fun and casual.

-The ceremony was really fun. We hired a judge from the town to act as the officiant. The guy was 69 years old and knew his stuff but he was fun and made sure the whole thing went flawlessly and wasn’t boring. We wrote our own vows and didn’t share them with one another until that day. Here’s mine:

I think I’ve loved you ever since I found out that we shared the same favorite Ninja Turtle and Ghostbuster (Raphael and Egon respectively).

Since then I have just continued to fall deeper and deeper in love with you.

I love that you can make me laugh even if you don’t know why.

I love that I can have a long discussion with you about a variety of different topics including the zombie apocalypse which you are incredibly prepared for.

There’s even a small part of me that loves it when you talk through movies. That part is very very small though.

I am looking forward to spending the rest of my life with you and raising truly awesome kids with you. I love you.

Here’s Monica’s:

You know I’m the realist, and you’re the romantic, which is why we fell in love.
So I’ll stay simple:
I promise to love you, even when you steal the sheets at night.
I promise to be truthful with you, especially if I have to prove you wrong.
I promise to support you in your endeavors, even if it’s only to achieve platinum before Doug.
I promise to be faithful to you, cause we’re too darn pretty for other people.
I promise to take care of you, and provide you with orange juice when you are sick.
I promise to keep my movie commentary down, but I secretly hope you’ll get used to it.
I promise to call you out on your epic fails, especially if we’re in public.
I promise to teach our children the difference between zombies and superheros.
I promise to keep you laughing, even if I don’t get why you think I’m funny.
And I promise to laugh at you, during all your times of great stupidity.
You are my better half, my best friend, and my knight in a red Hyandai.
I love you. Infinity times infinity to the infinite power.

Again, we did not share our vows beforehand but yet we had some cool overlaps. A couple weeks later we were talking to somebody and told him about our vows. He said “Wait, you guys had zombies in your wedding vows? That’s awesome!” Yes, it is.

Photo Credit: Kushal Pandey

-We had a dance. We didn’t have a traditional dance (aka The High School Sway as Monica calls it). We had a choreographed dance number. Fortunately for me, my close friend and “sister” Dara is a very talented choreographer. She has to be in order to make me look good on the dance floor. Our dance was done to “Such Great Heights.” The first half of the song was the slow version by Iron & Wine while the second half was the beat-filled version by The Postal Service. Want to see the dance? Well, the best I can do is a shotty webcam video, but I do have a video. See, I had meant to give my camera to Dara to film the dance but I forgot. The camera resided in my coat pocket for the whole day. Fortunately though I had set up my laptop on our head table to stream the wedding reception. Yes, I had my entire reception streamed online. I’m that much of a nerd. It also recorded though. Go here and skip to the 20 minute mark. That’s our introduction and dance. I just wish it didn’t skip around like it does a few times.

Photo Credit: Kushal Pandey

-We actually had a great time at the reception. I’m not a big party guy. I don’t like people. This was a reception filled with 125 of my friends and family and I had a blast. Aside from our first dance, I was on the dance floor a few times. This was surprising even to me. Halfway through the night Monica said “This is a lot of fun. We should do this every year.” I would agree if it didn’t cost that much to throw a big party like that. Plus we stayed away from the stupid cliche party songs like YMCA and the Macarena. We had fun songs and the DJ also played a song by our friends, Neon Gloworms which was super awesome.

Seriously, my family gets down.

Photo Credit: Kushal Pandey

All in all, we had a great wedding. Monica didn’t freak out about anything, even when some distant cousins showed up in jeans. She had a great time. I had a great time. My friends and family had a great time. The DJ, photographer and officiant were all amazing. The staff at the reception place were all extremely helpful and willing to do everything we asked including help set up my laptop and serve Monica’s Dad a peanut butter and jelly sandwich as a gag. My only regret was the camera for the first dance.

Now I get to stop saying the word “fiancee” which I absolutely hated. Seriously, I felt like a total douchebag every time I said “fiancee.” Now I can say “wife” and it just rolls off the tongue. “My wife called you a homosexual.” “My wife is prepared for the zombie apocalypse.” “My wife is pretty awesome.”

More to come on the honeymoon and some other updates since I haven’t written in this thing in over a month. Also, my wife has kindly collected more wedding pictures here.

I Accept This Challenge…From Myself


So here’s the deal. I buy stuff. I buy stuff a lot. I usually spend between $100 and $200 on stuff each paycheck. This ranges from DVDs & Blu Rays to Books / Comics to Video Games. I’ve been trying to cut down a little bit and give myself an allowance of sorts. Today I thought about it and decided that I would give myself a challenge. What if I tried to avoid buying anything (aside from essentials like food and bills and whatnot) until my wedding day? I’m getting married on October 10th. 10/10/10. That’s about six weeks from now. Can I last six weeks resisting any sales that I may see along the way?

I think I’ll have one exception to this challenge though. If I get anything for free then that’s OK. Anything I may win from a contest is fair game. I’m currently torn on SwapaDVD though. I’m still going to be trading DVDs through the site and as a result I’ll be getting credits. These are of no cost to me so they technically fall into the “free” territory. I have a wishlist on the site and it’s set up to automatically request anything that comes in stock on that list. Should I turn this feature off to avoid getting DVDs from here too? I’m not paying for any DVDs that may come out of there as a result since it’s a trading marketplace kind of thing.

Aside from that, I’m going to hopefully tackle this challenge. It will give me six weeks to catch up on some of the media that’s in my backlog before the wedding. Then I can go back to my regularly scheduled habits, hopefully with a budget in mind.

And Then I Say “I Do” Right?


I think the search for an officiant is officially over. Monica and I went up to Wappingers Falls two weeks ago to meet with the Justice of the Peace there. Then we got stood up. We had some miscommunication it seemed. I thought I was meeting the Judge at his home but the address he gave me was his office. We waited for a bit but no one showed up.

So we made an appointment to meet Judge Chase last Saturday. He’s a pretty nice guy and he went over the ceremony and what we’d need to do. Monica and I are still a little weary about it though because we don’t have a contract really because he doesn’t do that. We’re in his schedule now and we have his word but Monica wants stuff in writing. Plus the fact that we had a complete mix up the week before doesn’t help matters. I’m optimistic though.

One thing I thought was pretty funny was that the Judge suggested a few things to do during the ceremony including this one where we’d each pour a vile of colored sand into a vase to represent how our separate lives are joining together as one or some other crap. I had my own thoughts about it but I held my tongue until we left. As soon as we were out I said “We’re not doing any of that stuff, right?” and Monica said “Of course not. Sand? Really?” I love this girl.

Who Wants to Marry Me?


With our wedding less than a year away, Monica has officially entered panic mode. Things need to be done. Bullets are flying and people are dying. We’ve got a lot of stuff already taken care of. She has her dress. We have a location, a DJ, and a photographer. Save-The-Dates have been sent out and Monica has designed the invitations. One of the big things is now up to me. We have to find an officiant, someone to marry us.

My initial thought, which popped into my head out of the blue one day, was to ask my friend and former college roommate, Tom to get ordained online and perform the ceremony. Knowing him, he would do it if we asked. Plus, he’d finish the ceremony by pronouncing us man and wife and then giving us a big hug. All fun. Unfortunately, this online ordainment didn’t sit well in the eyes of his minister. I respect his beliefs and I didn’t want to push the issue.

With this development, Monica has tasked me to find an officiant. I haven’t a clue as to where to look. We received some names from bridal shows and from our reception hall, but nothing that’s affordable or at least within reason. The ceremony is going to be a half hour. I don’t see why I have to pay someone $600 to do that, especially if they stay for dinner. That seems way too expensive. Monica is concerned because of the potential popularity of our wedding date (10/10/10) that officiants will be booked up well in advance. I’ve got some calls to make, but I feel like officiants could handle a few of these a day and be all set. We’ll see though.

What Can My Wedding Do For You?


My wedding to Monica is now less than a year away. We’re getting married on October 10th, 2010. Yes, that’s right. 10/10/10. Granted we’ll have been engaged for over 2 years by then, but that’s besides the point.

We’ve talked about getting a sponsor for the wedding in jest but as the big day approaches we’ve talked more seriously about it. I’ve mentioned it at work a couple times to various colleagues and associates but nothing further has come of it aside from people joking with me. I’m going to try to set the record straight a little bit. I’m totally serious here. I (and my fiancee Monica) want to get a company to sponsor our wedding.

Off the top of my head, this sounds like a public relations slam dunk for just about any company. Here you have an incredibly cute couple about to start their married lives together in this harsh economic climate. They have so many big things looming in the future. A house? Children? Careers? Then a company, YOUR company, sweeps in to the rescue like Superman and lends them a helping hand. Advertising-wise this is a minimal commitment for some great gains.


We’re looking at a wedding that would cost between $20,000 and $30,000. (I’m not sure if those numbers include a honeymoon. Monica will have to clarify.) Considering how large advertising budgets can get, that’s a drop in the bucket. We’d be willing to brand the invitations (the save-the-dates have already gone out), table cards, thank you cards and whatever else needs it. Are you a clothing manufacturer? Let’s get the bridal party in your clothes! Camera company? Let’s set up a photo booth for our guests to share some memories with us.

These are just a few basic ideas. We’re expecting 150 guests for our wedding next year. That’s a good size wedding, but think of the exposure. Our 150 guests would tell their friends and family about this fun and unique wedding that you helped bring about. That’s great word of mouth.

Also, Monica and I would be more than happy to pose for pictures or be in any form of commercial or advertisement. A press release would probably be expected as well. Let’s use that camera example again. Sponsor the wedding, then pump out some advertising showing our happy faces and some pictures that we took / received during our wedding using your camera. Look at how wonderful these pictures turned out! Wouldn’t everyone want a camera that could make them this happy? Plus, who knows what could happen if this picks up steam?

Smaller sponsorships could also be a possibility. Do you make upscale clothing? Sponsor the ceremony. Are you a travel provider? Sponsor the honeymoon. There are several possibilities, but I do want to keep things from being too much like an outright advertisement. This is an example of social media with great viral potential here but that’s a fine line that we’re walking. If you’ve got another idea, by all means let me know and we’ll see what we can do!

I fully intend to pursue this idea as much as possible. I’m not going to create a PowerPoint presentation and go out making sales calls or anything like that though. If you’re a company that is interested in this idea, please contact me. If you’re just reading this and would like to spread the word, use the links at the bottom of the page to share it via Digg, Facebook, or the social networking site of your choice. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you.

Internet Superstars to TV Reference


OK. Check this out. I want you to watch this. You’ve probably seen it already, but watch this.

This video has almost 28 million views on YouTube right now. One of those millions of views hit someone at The Office as this past week we saw this:

I think this is awesome. Yes, there have been bits and pieces of stuff from YouTube that has floated into network Television (the Star Wars kid spoof in Arrested Development is the first and funniest that comes to mind) but I think this is so great. Television shows have spoofed and made jokes at all these aspects of pop culture from movies to radio to commercials and now the Internet is making this influence and with user generated content no less! So seriously, does anyone want to sponsor my wedding? I’ll do something like this if someone wants to sponsor it. No joke.

In other news, this should be a further kick in the ass for myself to actually film something.

Dancing Cheek to Cheek


So after a month, Dara and Tim got married….again. The first one was on the beach and it was great and very fun. This second one was in NY in the scenic Orange County Arboretum which I had no idea existed even though it’s about 15 minutes from where I grew up. Monica met up with the other ladies of the bridal party to get her hair done, so I had some time to kill. Originally I was just going to go back to my parents’ house and watch a DVD, heading over to the wedding around 2 (still a few hours before everything was supposed to start). Those plans changed after I called Dara to confirm the address of Monica’s hair thing and learned that she needed some help setting up. So, the good “brother” I am, I head over there to lend a hand.

I diligently put out tablecloths and set out chairs and swatted away a horde of flies and hung out bows and ate a cupcake (I earned it). Then just as I finished (I was left alone as Dara and her Mom needed to go get other stuff) some of the guys arrived and more stuff needed doing. We finished getting everything set up at around 3 or 3:30 with time left to spare. This entire time the sun was beating down on us. It was hot.

Then after the guys had all changed into our somewhat uniform white button down shirts and khakis (making us look like an all-white version of Boyz II Men), the clouds started rolling in and the sky got dark. The ladies arrived and we all lined up to start walking down the aisle. I figured that everyone was going to hurry to get this done in an effort to beat the rain. (more…)

A Very Sanford & Son Wedding


Who gets married on a Monday? Apparently my friends do. Monica and I woke up bright and early on Monday and got on the road at about 5:45 to make our way down to Belmar, NJ for the wedding of Dara & Tim. They’re both great friends and we could not have been happier for them. Dara has been like a sister to me since high school, so much so that we tell people that we’re siblings (the people are then really surprised to find out that we’re not actually related). Although I’ve only known Tim for about a year, I do consider him a very close friend and it’s very clear to see that he makes Dara very happy, so that makes me happy.

Anyway, we got to the beach around 7:30, a half hour before the ceremony. We hung out with Tim and a few others before the wedding began. When we had visited Kara and Finn in Philly on the way back from our road trip, Kara had offered to do the photography for the wedding, which was incredibly nice of her. She must have taken about a million pictures and from what I saw, they were great.

The ceremony was beautiful and yes, I cried a bit. Monica did too. If we’re crying at someone else’s wedding I can only imagine what kind of tears we’re going to shed at our own.



The Social Event of the Weekend


My parents (but mostly my Mom) threw Monica and I an engagement party on Saturday. Cory and I had to pick up a few things before the shindig got going though. This included a few sandwiches and a cake at BJs. The cake had a picture of me and Monica from our engagement session with Kara. There was some confusion when we went to pick up the cake though. They asked what was written on it and I told them “Congratulations” and that it had my picture on it. They couldn’t find it. It seemed that they were looking for a cake that JUST said Congratulations and not “Congratulations James & Monica 10/10/10.” How hard could this have been? Just look at my face and then go back there and look for a cake that looks just like that. I could have gone back there to help them compare.

DSCF1268Anyway, the party went off without a hitch and was a lot of fun. We got to see a bunch of people that we haven’t seen in awhile including some friends from college like Tom, Doug and Kushal. Aside from Kushal, I can’t remember the last time I saw them. It’s been awhile, but it was like old times gathered up in Scudder Hall telling jokes and laughing. By the end of the day my cheeks hurt from smiling so much. (more…)

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